Aug 25, 2023 10:00:00 AM | 8 Min Read

How to Select Your Child's After School Activities

How to Select Your Child's After School Activities

Have you ever found yourself in a quandary trying to determine the best after school activities for your child? It can be a perplexing task, given the sea of options available. This article, however, aims to help you navigate this journey.

Unravelling the Importance of After School Activities

Extracurricular activities play an instrumental role in your child's holistic development, extending far beyond their regular school hours. These activities don't merely kill time; they can shape character, enhance life skills, foster a sense of belonging, and can potentially steer future career paths. Their influence is like the ripples caused by a stone thrown into a pond, subtly but surely expanding their effect.

Gauging Your Child's Interests

Evaluating Their Passion

How to Select Your Child's After School ActivitiesRecognising your child's interests can feel like trying to solve a puzzle. Each child possesses a unique set of inclinations. Some may find joy in sketching out their imagination, some may find solace in dancing to their heart's content, while others may be enthralled by the world of numbers or coding. Pay attention to what brings sparkles to their eyes. That sparkle might light the way. You may find that they don't enjoy team sports but like physical exercise. In this instance, martial arts may be the thing for them.

Incorporating Their Input

Who knows your child better than they do? Involving your child in the decision-making process can give them a sense of ownership and engagement. After all, it's their journey that you are planning. So, let them have a say.

Striking a Balance Between Academics and Extracurriculars

After school activities, while extremely beneficial, shouldn't cast a shadow over your child's academic performance. The scales need to be balanced to ensure that they can juggle their schoolwork and hobbies without feeling overwhelmed. Striking this balance can be likened to mastering the art of walking a tightrope; it requires practice and careful adjustment.

Considering the Skill Set of Your Child

Enhancing Existing Skills

How to Select Your Child's After School ActivitiesIs your child already a star in a particular area? An activity that aligns with their established skills can further refine them, adding another feather to their cap. It's like adding layers of polish to a diamond, enhancing its shine.

Exploring New Horizons

If you feel like your child has explored all corners of their current skill set, maybe it's time to introduce them to a new world. After school activities can offer opportunities for your child to discover unexplored territories, potentially revealing hidden talents or passions.

Probing the Social Aspect

After school activities can be a social playground for your child, fostering camaraderie and teamwork. However, remember to assess your child’s comfort level with group activities. Not every child is a social butterfly, and that's perfectly fine.

Checking the Logistics


You need to plan the activities to ensure that they fit seamlessly into your child's daily routine. Overlapping with their homework, meals, or rest time could create a conflict that would be counterproductive.


Is the location of the activity convenient, or does it require a tiresome commute? Your child's energy should be spent on the activity, not on getting there.

Cost / Value

While we all want the best for our children, it’s important to choose activities that align with your budget. The price tag of an activity doesn't necessarily determine its value. Having said that, look at the value that the activity brings to your child and to you as a parent. Do they offer just the activity, or are there other aspects to it outside of the activity that support them? If you can see that they are being supported even when not being there though the external support offered, it's likely that they are very good value for money, even if they are expensive.

Assessing the Quality of the Activity

How to Select Your Child's After School ActivitiesYou might want to roll up your sleeves and do some detective work. Investigate the activity's reputation, the qualifications of the instructors, the resources available, and the safety measures in place. Ensuring a quality experience for your child is paramount.

The Role of Parents in After School Activities

Your support can be the wind beneath your child's wings, encouraging them to soar high. But remember, while your role is crucial, it's their show to run. Provide guidance, but let them be the driver of their journey.

The Perils of Over-Scheduling

Having a variety of experiences can be enriching, but an overly packed schedule can lead to burnout. It’s like filling a cup with water; it can only hold so much before it starts to overflow. Parents can often feel like their child needs to be doing something all the time, but it is important to recognise that children don't need to be occupied all the time. We often see students who have an activity every day of the week which often leads to burnout. Make sure you are picking the thing that supports them the most and they get the most out of an maybe even think about dropping those that don't.

The Power of Downtime

Downtime is not wasted time; it's a breather, a time to relax, refresh and rejuvenate. It can be a catalyst for creativity and a haven for mental well-being. A child at play is a child at work.

Encouraging Your Child's Commitment

Choosing an activity is one thing; sticking to it is another. Encouraging your child to commit to their activities helps instill discipline and persistence. It’s like watering a plant consistently, allowing it to grow and flourish.

Regular Evaluation of the Activities

Regular check-ins can help you gauge the effectiveness of the activity in your child’s life. If the activity no longer serves its purpose or if your child has outgrown it, don’t hesitate to make necessary adjustments.


Selecting your child's after school activities is a journey that requires patience, keen observation, and open communication. Your child's happiness and growth should be the guiding stars in this process. Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day, and your child's interests and skills won't be either.


  1. Q: Is it okay for my child to engage in several activities at once? A: Yes, as long as it does not lead to a cluttered schedule and stress.

  2. Q: What if my child wishes to quit an activity after a few sessions? A: Let them quit if they're genuinely unhappy, but also discuss the importance of commitment and giving things a fair chance.

  3. Q: How can I tell if an activity is benefiting my child? A: Look for signs of increased confidence, development of new skills, enhanced social interaction, and a sense of joy and fulfilment.

  4. Q: Should I push my child to continue an activity if they excel at it but do not enjoy it? A: No, an activity should not only be a platform for showcasing talents but also a source of enjoyment and personal growth.

  5. Q: Is it alright for my child to have periods with no scheduled activities? A: Absolutely, free time or downtime is important for a child's mental health, creativity, and overall well-being.

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Topics: Parenting, Martial Arts

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